I thoroughly enjoy a good debate every now and again. I don't like it though when I'm the one being more open-minded and the other isn't. We are not always going to agree because the last time I checked that we are not the same DNA make-up. Be strong in your opinion but at least be open to a different perspective. It may not change your view....but you will be a better person to know ALL options to validate your perspective.
One other thing that is good to remember that when you fail to tell the truth on something or bury your feelings, you lose value as person. They immediately look at you differently and have a hard time to even validate half the things that you say or do. Relationships are hard to maintain when you say one thing and do another. You can't have the best of both worlds when your faking a part of yourself. I'm not saying that you shouldn't ever give second chances to others because that would be giving up on that person all together. People are brought into your life for a reason. Discounting them for an error let alone a situation that you failed to take time to evaluate and just reacted to could ruin that persons involvement for your life to begin with.
With that said...I have a friend. Someone I used to hold very close that will be around soon again and I'm not sure how to deal with it. Second chances have longed passed. I'm thinking we are in the thirty something margins on now at this point. Just a little over a week I need to be prepared on what I want to do with this friendship. I know the person they used to be....but their decision making processes are just horrible. They have lost a lot because of their personal choices, but I'm still not thinking that has affected them the way that it should have. Its hard not to put judgment on another, especially since I'm not God.......but I'm struggling with this. The people you surround yourself with also represent your own identity. I'm working on my status so the last thing I need is someone around that really isn't up to par in the way that they should. I'm going to give this some time and I guess process as the situation comes when I have to see them again. I'm at least giving them that...........plus I can read someone better when they are in front of my face vs. just reading a letter.
One other thing that is good to remember that when you fail to tell the truth on something or bury your feelings, you lose value as person. They immediately look at you differently and have a hard time to even validate half the things that you say or do. Relationships are hard to maintain when you say one thing and do another. You can't have the best of both worlds when your faking a part of yourself. I'm not saying that you shouldn't ever give second chances to others because that would be giving up on that person all together. People are brought into your life for a reason. Discounting them for an error let alone a situation that you failed to take time to evaluate and just reacted to could ruin that persons involvement for your life to begin with.
With that said...I have a friend. Someone I used to hold very close that will be around soon again and I'm not sure how to deal with it. Second chances have longed passed. I'm thinking we are in the thirty something margins on now at this point. Just a little over a week I need to be prepared on what I want to do with this friendship. I know the person they used to be....but their decision making processes are just horrible. They have lost a lot because of their personal choices, but I'm still not thinking that has affected them the way that it should have. Its hard not to put judgment on another, especially since I'm not God.......but I'm struggling with this. The people you surround yourself with also represent your own identity. I'm working on my status so the last thing I need is someone around that really isn't up to par in the way that they should. I'm going to give this some time and I guess process as the situation comes when I have to see them again. I'm at least giving them that...........plus I can read someone better when they are in front of my face vs. just reading a letter.
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